Danny got a new job recently working during the night. Although he doesn’t have an ideal schedule he is providing for our family and for that I am grateful. My husband has held a night job before and I let it get to me a lot. There were plenty of times I didn’t realize the strain I was putting on top of our relationship. Although it may seem like forever, a job truly never lasts as long. We are lucky we don’t have children yet because I’m sure this would be a very different post if we did.
The Time You Spend Together Could be Limited
It may seem like the time you used to spend with your partner was abundant. Now, your schedules don’t coincide! Let’s face it, it’s hard when you only have a small window of time during the day to spend together. At first I had a hard time accepting Danny’s new work schedule because I felt lonely without him. It’s very easy to let these things get to you but it’s not worth it! Talk to your partner about how this makes you feel. In order to make a relationship work, each one needs to actively contribute to it.
The time you spend apart may even bring you two closer together. You may start to realize how much you cherish the time you do have together. Each relationship has its own fair share of obstacles to overcome. In my experience, weird shifts are not worth arguing for. I value Danny for supporting our family. I am lucky to have a partner who is considerate of my feelings and always excited to spend time with me.
Turn this into an opportunity to work on YOU!
When Danny is sleeping I know that’s my time to go to the gym, study, and work on our blog. I’m happiest when I’m in good shape and I feel healthy. If I haven’t gone outside for a walk or lifted weights at the gym I feel sluggish. My mind is at its clearest and my mood at its brightest when I know I’ve done something positive for my health. I cannot stress enough how important exercise. I feel so much clarity after I’ve gone for a run or lifted weights.
My time away from Danny is used for what I’ve been putting on the back-burner. I spend that time working on something I’ve always wanted to do. Create a blog, put on those old running sneakers, or take that old camera out to capture the first snowfall of the year. A happy person is just fifty percent of the equation. Investing in yourself makes your relationship stronger.
Call up an old friend to go out with.
This one is just obvious. Having a support system will make conflicting work schedules a whole lot easier. If your partner has to sleep in on a Saturday morning call up an old friend to go to breakfast with. Once you start feeling like other people are there for you to spend time with, you won’t feel like you are sacrificing much at all.
Finally, share your concerns with your partner
You are the only person who really knows what’s going on in your relationship. It’s important to communicate with your other half. Sometimes, one conversation can be a game changer for both people. Keep in mind that your partner is working to support you and your family. Night time shifts are sometimes the only way a family can get by. If everything is perfect there would be no obstacles that challenge our relationships to grow and finally, be able to thrive.
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